You’re busy. Your partner is busy. Maybe you’ve just accepted that it’s the way things are, but you’re not thrilled about rarely seeing each other or only having a few short minutes of genuine interaction each day. 

Being “ships in the night” in your relationship can be incredibly lonely. There might be nothing wrong with the relationship itself, but if you don’t get much time together, it’s easy for anxiety and depression to creep in, and you’ll end up feeling like you’re just not connecting with your partner the way you want to. 

Thankfully, it’s possible to reconnect and strengthen your relationship, no matter your schedule. If you’re happy with your partner and want to reignite your connection, try some of these helpful tips to feel closer and more intimate, even if you don’t get to spend a lot of time together. 

Utilize Technology

Most of us use technology every day. Maybe you need it for work, or you spend a little too long on social media scrolling through anything and everything. 

Why not take advantage of the digital world we live in and use technology to stay connected with your partner? There’s no replacement for face-to-face interaction. But, if you’re not able to get that as often as you want, digital devices can be the next best thing. 

Text each other throughout the day. Send photos. Video chat when you both have a few minutes. These small moments of connection can add up quickly and help you feel closer to each other even when you’re not physically together. It lets you both into each other’s world when you’re on opposite schedules. 

Show Appreciation

Chances are, if you and your partner are passing like ships in the night, you’re both working hard. Maybe one of you has an overnight shift while the other stays home and takes care of the children. Or, maybe you both work, but you have opposite schedules. 

photo of a man twirling a woman on the ocean at sunsetWhatever the case, a great way to reconnect with your partner is to let them know how much you appreciate them. Leave them small notes sharing your gratitude. Use the moments you do have together to express how thankful you are for them. 

An attitude of gratitude goes a long way in relationships. It will give both of you a boost in your personal and professional lives, and you’ll come home with a sense of pride knowing your partner appreciates what you’re doing to keep things running smoothly. 

Build Trust

It takes time to build trust in a relationship. But, trust is also a necessary component for peace. If you don’t get to see your partner often, having a strong sense of trust will make you both feel comfortable and calm, rather than on edge. 

How you build trust in your relationship is personal and specific to your needs. But, things like open, honest communication and transparency are great ways to start. 

Find Ways to Communicate

Speaking of honest communication, it’s a cornerstone of a healthy relationship. Find time, every day if possible, to have a genuine, real conversation with your partner. It could be in the morning over coffee or at night before bed, even if you only have a few minutes before one of you needs to leave. 

Choose to be vulnerable and honest and ask your partner for the same. By prioritizing communication, you’ll stay connected even when you’re apart. You won’t have to constantly wonder what’s going on in your partner’s mind and how you can come together to work on your relationship. 

Living with opposite schedules doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. If you don’t get much time together, it’s easier than you might think to make your relationship work. It just takes time and effort from both people involved. 

Reach out to learn more about couples or marriage counseling and how it can help strengthen your relationship even more.