There is nothing quite as devastating as losing someone you love. While most of us will experience it in our lifetime, it never seems to get easier. Grief is a normal and healthy thing after loss. You’ve likely heard of the stages of grief, and it’s important to go through them, even if it’s at your own pace. 

Unfortunately, it’s not uncommon to feel “stuck” or like you’re not moving forward with your grief. Maybe you feel like you can’t find any peace, or you simply won’t be able to go on without the person you lost. 

You’re not alone in feeling that way, but it doesn’t mean those feelings need to control you forever. Let’s look at a few effective coping strategies you can start using right away to find strength and peace after a loss. 

Acknowledge Your Feelingssad woman in bed

One of the worst things you can do is attempt to keep your feelings inside or suggest to yourself that they aren’t worthwhile. 

Emotions will always demand to be felt. The more you try to push them down, the stronger they’re likely to become. Acknowledging your emotions and accepting them for what they are is often the first step toward truly healing. 

Consider writing down what you’re feeling in a journal, opening up to a friend or family member, or even joining a support group with others who might be grieving. Sharing what you’re feeling and hearing how others are coping with loss can give you a sense of motivation and empowerment. 

Practice Self-Care

When you’re in the throes of grief, you might think of self-care as something frivolous or unnecessary. Self-care is important for everyone, all of the time. But, it should be a priority when you’re dealing with loss and trying to cope. 

With that in mind, understand that self-care doesn’t need to be anything that costs a lot of money or takes up a lot of time. Carving out a few minutes each day to do something that promotes your well-being can make a big difference in your mood, self-esteem, and mental state. 

Something as simple as getting enough sleep or getting in some physical activity every day can help. If you’re really struggling with grief, try something like journaling to help you work through the process and better understand your emotions. 

Practices like mindfulness and meditation can help you focus on the present, rather than letting anxious or sad thoughts take over. These practices can keep you grounded and calm you down, and are excellent for daily self-care. 

Find Moments of Gratitude

Experiencing a hard loss can make it seem like you’ll never be happy again. Try to find small moments each day to be grateful. Maybe a co-worker brought you a coffee. Maybe your kids cleaned their rooms without you having to ask. Or, you could just be grateful that the sun is shining and it’s a beautiful day. 

Adopting an attitude of gratitude can help to lift your spirits and help you find peace. You’ll start to see things from a different perspective, and your thoughts won’t be so heavily clouded with grief. 

Reach Out for Help

Again, you don’t have to go through the grieving process alone. But, if you’re still struggling to cope after talking with your support system, consider reaching out to a professional. 

Therapy can help you better understand why your grief feels so overwhelming. Getting to the root of your feelings isn’t necessarily an easy journey, but a necessary one as you begin the healing process. 

Not only will therapy help you better understand your emotions, but you’ll learn even more coping strategies to move forward. 

If you’re struggling to find strength and peace after a loss, don’t feel like you have to find it on your own. Contact me to set up an appointment soon or learn more by visiting my page on depression counseling