Communication is a crucial component of any successful relationship. Unfortunately, far too many couples get it “wrong” by misjudging communication styles or not truly listening to their partners. 

That doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. It certainly doesn’t mean you can’t improve your communication efforts, as long as you both are willing. 

With that in mind, let’s take a look at five ways couples can communicate better, so you can use some of these strategies to improve the communication efforts in your own relationship.

1. Practice Active Listening

Being a strong communicator is about more than just speaking. If you truly want to communicate effectively with your partner, practice being an active listener. That includes acknowledging what they say, giving them your full attention, and asking questions for clarification. 

The more you show your partner that you’re truly listening to what they say, the more willing they’ll be to open up and show vulnerability. That can improve your intimacy and help you both to feel more connected.

2. Show Vulnerability

Speaking of vulnerability, it’s just as essential for you to open up, too. 

Intimacy and trust are things that are built with time. However, it takes both people in a relationship to foster them. 

By hiding parts of yourself—even areas of shame, guilt, or embarrassment—you’re hindering the trust and intimacy in your relationship. Be willing to open up and share those parts of yourself with your partner. You might be surprised by how accepting and loving they are.

3. Schedule Time Together

To say we’re living in a busy, fast-paced society would be an understatement. Unfortunately, that causes many relationships to suffer when it comes to communication. 

To combat that, consider scheduling time together. Go on a date night once a week, or spend an hour every evening free from distractions so you can focus on meaningful conversations. 

By scheduling that special time with each other, you’re letting your partner know that your relationship is a priority. While it might not seem like the most romantic thing in the world to “pencil in” a conversation, it actually means a lot.

4. Remember You’re on the Same Team

Did you know you can have productive, healthy arguments with your partner? 

When you decide to argue the right way, your disagreements can actually strengthen your relationship and make you feel closer. 

One of the best ways to do that is to remember you’re on the same team. You want the same things, even if you have different ideas on how to achieve them. 

Whether you’re disagreeing with your partner or trying to work through a difficult situation, remember to maintain a united front and treat each other with respect. When you realize you can overcome difficult things together through effective communication, you’ll be ready to tackle anything as a strong, unified couple.

5. Consider Outside Help

If you’re struggling to communicate with your partner, or you feel like something is missing in your relationship, consider reaching out for professional help. 

Sometimes, a third party can be the best solution for a couple dealing with communication issues. A therapist can help you realize where you’re struggling with communication, and what you can do about it. 

Even if your relationship is in a good place, learning how to be better listeners and how to open up to your partner is never a bad thing! Consider it a “refresher course” in understanding one another’s communication styles. 

If you’re ready to improve the communication in your relationship, contact me for more information. Couples counseling can go a long way in improving the strength of your relationship and the bond you share with your partner.